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A Mothers Loss & Quest for Justice
" Born of Sorrow, Forged with Courage" -F.A.C.T.
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I can’t say that there has been a moment in our lives where I have been more proud of your accomplishments. Every time I think you can’t surprise me more… You simply raise the bar.
To my amazing, talented, beautiful Sister… How proud Dad and Matthew must be… How proud we all are. I love you, forever and for always,
Me.
I know that Dad and Matthew are together, watching down over us, full of pride. I will never stop fighting and speaking out about our loss.
Wow Sandra your words deeply moved me to tears , my eyes are so welled up I can barely type.I didn’t know your son but have watched and followed your story since day one and the loss you have suffered is unimaginable to me as I am a single Mom of 3 boys and the thought of losing one of my boys to such a senseless act of violence is scary and makes me want to run home and hug them and never let them out of my sight.
To read and hear that your still standing shows what a remarkable Woman and Mother you are , you inspire me greatly. Please do keep fighting and speaking about Mathew the world needs to know and his memory lives on, every time you do.My thoughts and prayers go out to you and the rest of your family. Stay Strong.
Tricia
Hi Tricia,
I want to thank you for your words of kindness, and encouragement. I promise that I will never stop speaking out about our loss, and will continue to support all those that have lost as we have.
Dear Sandra,
Thank you for a beautiful blog site and please accept my praise – best wishes from Adrian and myself. Please keep in touch. Renee Saklikar
Great new site.
Can’t wait to see the book
You and your family are still in our prayers.
cher
Thank you Cher!! I also think of you guys as well….Keep in touch!
You are so strong!
I give you loads of praise!!
Thinking of you and your family.
Hello Melanie,
I thank you for your support & encouragement. It means everything to us!
Wow, Sandie – what an impressive and informative site you have created. I’m sure Matthew would be honoured by such a wonderful tribute.
God bless you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
XOXO
Thank you Allison. I can only pray that Matthew is looking down on us with great pride!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and ur family
I pray ever night for you guys
love always brooke and Teresa
Three cheers to the judge who denied KQ’s…bail she does not deserve to be out in society to do it again. Wow Sandy what an impressive writer you are. This is an awesome informative web-site blog! Let me know when the book is released I will get it for sure.
I always go into tears when I see you in the news all the time, and to see the happiness on your face today outside the court says it all there really is a justice system.
It is still hard to believe our little Mathew is not here to have his say with these vicious types of people out there. Mathew was the smartest little kid I ever met. Hes so missed by so many. I’m sure he is up there praising his mom and family now.
Happy Birthday Girl Love ya! from aunty Suzette.
Sandra,,
We will never forget those unimaginable moments from which we were forced into the darkest days forever. My heart goes out to you and your family….I thank you and F.A.C.T for all the love and support.You give strength to us all and a glimps into the absolute horror that most will never know.
hi sandra my name is julio and i went to streetfront and spectrum with matthew…we were good friends ever since we met because i know he had so much love for hip hop and it made me want to be his friend…matthew, oscar and myself sat beside eachother all the time in school. Matthew was the chillest kid ever and was always peaceful…..the only times he would be upset was if there was no more cheeesy buns or chocolate milks for break time..lol…oh matthew he was such a wonderful guy always smiling..always sooooo talkative and had so much to say..he had so much opinion and was never shy to speak his mind.
i miss matthew soo much and it fills me with so much anger ….so much anger that i start to make holes in the walls of my home….i hate the people who killed him so much i just want my own personal revenge against them…a brutal revenge could maybe make me feel peace when i think of him…..because i never do feel peace when i think about him…only anger and hate towards those stupid fucks….
my life has been greatly affected by matthews death because he died 1 day after my birthday……every year on my birthday i am reminded of his death and how he will never be able to celebrate his birthdays or come to mine…every year this anger fills me and i cry by myself….every year on my birthday when im supposed to be happy i become sad because matthew isnt here with us.
im sorry i havent been supportive of him by going to his birthdays but not thinking of him is the only thing that will let me have peace….and i pray to god that you find your justice..i also pray to god that he will never let those 2 enter his kingdom of heaven…
sandy, i can not imagine the pain you have gone through but i share the pain with….as every year goes by ..on my birthdays i will always remember matthew and he will always be in my heart.
i pray that brayden and mitchell will find peace in their hearts as well as strength and i believe that because of their brothers loss they will find the courage and will to grow up to be great, succesful and strong men…
sometimes when im about to give up with my goals i think of matthew…like when im boxing ..and fighting the other guy..and get tired….and slow and weak ..and getting hit….i think of matthew and how he will never be able to do sports and thrive….and instantly i get this rush of energy …as if he was listening to my heart and he comes down from heaven and holds my arms so he can help me hit harder and faster! i truly feel this and it helps me overcome exhaustion and hopelessness.
Sandra,
We do not know each other I came across your blog from the province newspaper website. Your family’s story has touched my heart in a way that is undescribeable. The loss that you and your family have suffered can and will never be justified. I am appalled at how our ‘Justice’ system has taken care of your son’s case. I cannot believe that they allowed that horrible woman to walk free with no consequences to face. I am extrememly sorry about your loss and can understand the pain of watching a perfectly good life go to waste. These people that did this to your son deserve the pain that you feel. You are a wonderful woman who has been robbed of a child. No one should be able to walk free from that. I just wanted to let you know that I agree with you 150% about our justice system. I am very sorry about all that you have been through because of these savage people. I hope that you recuperate from this tremendous loss and I wish you and your entire family all the best. Thank you for writing this blog it has made me appreciate life so much more. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless You.
I can’t believe someone can get released from jail for her part in the murder of little Innocent Mathew (my nephew) and yet I read other news that says a judge has sent John (an alias name) to jail for 8 years for his part in a growop!…but to commit murder on a child Quinn gets to go home and live her life! I’m Absolutely speechless now! Shame on our Canadian Justice System
hey sandie maybe you have the power to change the justice system now.
I promise to at least try….
I have finally sat down and read your page on this site. I can’t even express clearly in words what I am feeling for you and your family !!! I have had many losses in my life as you well know but I can’t even reach the level of grief you are having to endure in my mind or in my soul!!!
I do believe everything happens for a reason and one day it will be clear to you as to what that reason is for something that is so hanous that one can’t even wrap their brain around.
Nothing can ever justify what has happened and nothing will ever make it right or ok but there will be “something” that gives you comfort.
I wish I could tell you when this day will come but just know it is there somewhere in the future.
I know Matthew is watching over all of you and I know he is proud of you all for how strong you have all been in your fight to make this right!! He will always be with you and watching over you, I DO BELIEVE THIS !!
I wish I had more better words of comfort for you and maybe in our talks I will have some.
A gentelman gave me some words to live by when we were going through the loss of Melanie, “No matter how bad things seem someone else is always having it worse than you”, these words may not seem like they apply to you and you may not be able to fit them in your mind at this time but one day they may be the words that help you get through some of your toughest days. These words helped me through some of the toughest days and helped me keep that light at the end of the tunnel on, as dim as that light was at times.
The other words that this wise man (also lost a child to violence) gifted to me were, Never do the, I could have, I should have, what if I, only if I did this and that type of thing. All of these question feed the “guilt monster” and guilt is the strongest and most debilatating emotion a human can have!! It will bring you down and you will ceasa to function.
I am sure you know this already but if you don’t I hope it can help fight the “guilt monster” Remmber none of this is your fault, there is nothing you could have done to prevent this.
I hope you can find some comfort in all I have shared here and use some of the wisdom that was once handed to me in one of my darkest times of my life !!!!
I will talk to you soon. Take care and be strong!!
Love,
Tina Marrie
Sandra,
I truly believe you have the power to change our laws..You have become a strong leader on victims rights. Your book will help many others who have fell prey to our so called justice system. When I saw the news clip on the court steps on that horrible day she was let out on bail, my heart broke. You have become a powerhouse for justice and I pray this gives you some kind of comfort. You are a remarkable amazing woman and my prayers and thoughts are with you, your family and Matty.
Respectfully,
Kim Driscoll
Dear Sandra,
as a young adult your story has touched mine and my families lives. i really hope your cause on facebook makes the justice system realize that the low life people that took your son away dont deserve a second chance, no muderer does. they need to face what theyve done. and do their time. for the rest of their lives, no second chance, no being let out on bail. the only thing they deserve is life in prison. they dont have the right to be able to see their friends and families. not one bit. they took the life of your innocent son and now they need to pay. lately my mom has been talking to you on facebook about buying a signed copy of your book. if you every need help with anything, you know where to find me.
take care, may god bless yours and your families souls.
R.I.P Matthew Martins.
Nerrissa O’Reilly!
Sandra,
I think it is incredible that you wrote this book and I can’t wait to read it. You have given inspiration to victims’ families as well as those who would like to express their grief through the literary world.
Your story has stuck with me since I first heard about Matthew’s untimely death. My mother and I were sickened and angry because my little brother was around Matthew’s age at the time and it just really hit home.
I am so happy to know that even though it was excrutiatingly difficult, grief did not consume you. I have faith that your boys will find the strength they need to overcome their anxiety while still keeping Matthew’s memory in their hearts. Matthew is always around and it’s important to celebrate this life.
All my best wishes to you, your children, your husband, family and friends.
Chloe
Dear Sandra,
I received a copy of “The Last Six Minutes” from your Langley book signing. First off I want to say THANK YOU Sandra!! Thank you for your courage, your love for Matthew, your determination to be able to find that inner strength to recall and write the details for this powerful book on this heinous crime against you son, the perpatrators and our judicial system.
(I must say I have never cried so much in an afternoon)!!!
I remember taking Skytrain to/from work and my stop to get on/off my bus was right by his memorial site. I would listen to the news & I would look at it and wonder about him and his family. This book Sandra let me know what a loving family he came from and what a REMARKABLE young man He was!
You are now HIS voice and after reading this book you have a
VOICE THAT WILL BE HEARD !
I also have a son named Matthew (19)- Matthew means ” gift from god ”
Thank you Sandra – you are a remarkable woman/mother!
May God watch over you and your family
(Matthew and your Dad)
Blessings to David, you Mitchell,Braydon & Chhaya
Rose
May God bless you .
Im deeply sorry for your loss . and thank you for an amzing job with this webiste
Hi Sandra,
I came across this site through facebook and I think you are doing a very beautiful thing for Matthew and for others. I will pray everyday for justice for Matthew. You have done an amazing job at expressing yourself despite how difficult it must be. You are a very strong woman! Thank you
Now my deepest condolences for the lose of your first/oldest son. The facts of how anyone could do this to someone makes me want to Just make the saying What goes around comes around so easy to return the what goes around into coming around and the justice system should give punishment with the same as what they gave out yet if they lived through it then live in prison with no parole would suit me just fine. How on this earth did Katherine Quin get out on bail? You know Sandra if the justice system would just turn a back for 5 minutes. This would all be over except to pray and have beautifull memories,laughing, crying. Man why won’t the law just stand still and let nature takes it course or just abide by what is the right sentencing. Me i would give them life along with being stoned to death in prison.Sandra i also have two grown adult children and i could not imagine being able to be as strong as you, as for me i would be the one spending one or two life sentences for carrying out the justice system the way i see fit. OH my I am sorry for just talking off your ears. but please Sandra Remember Matthew can know only think of happy things and will be your guarding angel and he will/is guiding you as i speak so god bless you and your family.
i just wanted to let you know i love your book and the more i read the more i cried. i have lost a loved one to a violent crime and cant imagine having to relive it over and over as you and your family has in the courts. i live in surrey and many of my friends have had run-in`s with the quinn`s and nothing good has come out of it ! i believe in karma and that the evil ungrateful waste of space will get what she deserves. sometimes the community can do more then the courts. may matthew rest in peace….
Sick kid killers my 15yr son was murdered,stabbed by a friend all over a dented floor. The kid killer was 16yrs old planned it all Seth never knew it was coming had no idea he hid the knife under a blanket.The kid killer told kids at school he wanted to stab someone weeks before. No one told or didn’t believe him so he was wanting to kill someone long before he murdered my son. He pleaded to 2nd degree.It should be 1st Degree.In this country juveniles are rarely MOVED UP TO Adult AND ONLY SERVE 3YRS IN CUSTUDY AND 4YRS back at home under supervision now that’s the real Joke. The government in 2003 amended the young offenders act because the most kid killers received was mandatory 3yrs that was it, no name published, no one would ever know who these animals are. Fact kids can kill and get away with it. Manitoba is the worst province for walking killers Adult and Juvenile. Seth James Ottenbreit 1994-2009. I am all for your cause. All these murderers should receive life, period, no parole, 10yrs then can apply for parole that’s for all murderers under the faint hope clause. Joke joke joke unbelievable. Sandra I am so sorry for your loss.